Yesterday I was working from Starbucks when I received a Twitter message from Glennon Doyle Melton, in response to a Tweet I sent her a couple days before wishing her a good trip to Austin. She asked if I was going to MomCom (the conference she’d be speaking at that evening). I said that I was working on the Febuary issue of Total Mommy Fitness and couldn’t make it.
As I sat there working, the response I sent felt unsettling. I really wanted to hear her speak, and the fact that she sent me a personal message meant a lot. So, I texted the guy I had plans with that night asking to reschedule, and sent her another message saying that I had just cancelled my date with a cute boy to come see her… She responded with, “OMG, I wouldn’t do that to hear me speak! Never so much pressure as this. Based on the photo of you, I am confident the cute boy will wait.” Ha! I knew I liked this lady
Glennon’s talk did not disappoint. It was wise, hilarious, touching, and honest. She shared her thoughts on the most common questions that she gets from women regarding mom guilt, marriage, mompetiton (competition amongst moms), finding balance and happiness.
I wish I had a recording that I could play for you because my recap will not do it justice. However, here are some highlights that stood out to me…
“Mom guilt is really love so deep that it hurts.”
“The reason you don’t play My Little Ponies every day isn’t because you’re a bad mom. It’s because My Little Ponies suck.”
“When we continually show up for the messy people in our lives miracles happen.”
“The same reason we can’t find a tension free life and perfect balance is the same reason we can’t find a unicorn.”
“Being beautiful means being full of beauty — it has nothing to do with the outside.”
“Be brave enough to tell your own story, and kind enough not to tell anyone else’s.” (She admitted to learning this piece of wisdom as a teen during her treatment for Bulimia)
“Balance is created by opposing forces — the things you feel pressured by are the things that are holding you up.”
Glennon also explained how separation from her husband made her into a more well-rounded person, and why she thinks “happy” and “pretty” are weak words — she believes in joy, love, and beauty, and made a compelling case for why there is a big difference.
There were so many times during her speech when I thought to myself, “yes!”, “exactly!”, “me too!” and as I looked around the room I knew that I was not the only one having those thoughts. Glennon has a gift for making people feel understood and like we are all the same.
Though, I will admit that there were some moms squirming in their seats when she compared bedtime stories to a hostage situation, or when she admitted to skipping Christmas decorations and sending her kids over to her Pinterest enthusiast friend’s house when they complained about wanting holiday crafts and decor.
When her talk was over I clapped loudly and really wanted to stand up, but as the only non-mom at a mom’s conference I didn’t want to stand out even more. So, I sat there slightly annoyed that no one else stood up first.
The conference wrapped up and I headed over to her book signing at “Tesla.” I assumed it was a bar or restaurant so when I walked in and realized it was THE Tesla I was stopped in my tracks.
**quick sidenote: in a previous life, I was a huge car enthusiast and fixed up old cars as a hobby. When I joined the Army at 17 years old I turned down a $8k signing bonus if I’d become a nurse to be a Humvee diesel mechanic instead. Over the years I have lost my interest in cars because I’ve become a tree-hugger who only cares about fuel economy. So, when Tesla released its 100% electric car combining eco-friendly with high tech and sex appeal, my love affair with the motor vehicle was rekindled.
I swooned as I got to examine this beautiful modern marvel up close for the first time.
As I headed to the back of the room, I saw Glennon and her entourage preparing for her book signing. She was talking to someone so I went to the restroom to kill time and play it cool instead of hovering.
I had interviewed her on the phone, read her blog, heard friends explain how she had influenced their lives, and now finally had the chance to meet her. I didn’t feel nervous, but excited.
When I introduced myself she gave me a big hug. I could feel my heart pounding so hard that I was a little embarrassed because I’m sure she could feel it too.
I was quickly put at ease because Glennon was sweet and real and felt like a friend within seconds. I left MomCom so glad that I went and grateful for how inspiring and kind Glennon had been.
If you haven’t visited her site, Momastery.com, I highly recommend that you check it out. And, please don’t tell Charlize Theron, but I think Glennon Doyle Melton has replaced her for the title of my “girl crush.”
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